As a social worker we are many things. We are advocates, we are policymakers, therapists,
community organizers and we connect people to resources. We work in many
settings. We work in hospitals, hospice,
child welfare, substance abuse treatment facilities, policy institutes,
homeless shelters, adoption agencies, and psychiatric hospitals. These lists are not all inclusive. The truth
is social workers work everywhere and often do everything. One of the most important roles we have is
grief counselor. This is easy to
recognize in some settings such as hospice but it is true in all the settings
we work.
Each of us
has a vision of our life. The human
struggle is to integrate the reality of our life with our vision. We ask ourselves, “What did I expect out of
life?” Our answers to this question vary.
For each of us there are different pieces of our vision that are dear to
us. One of us may easily transition from
one career to the next while another can’t seem to let go of “how they thought
it would be”.
Many of us will be successful in grieving small
changes to our life vision but we must also incorporate critical
incidents. Critical incidents are those
moments in life that fundamentally change our trajectory. They alter our path permanently. Some critical incidents may be anticipated
such as a marriage, birth, graduation, or empty nest. But many will be unexpected. Many will be moments we never
anticipated. Contingencies we couldn’t
envision much less prepare for. This is the moment when many of us say "I will not", "I cannot". This is the moment we often must borrow from the strength of those around us.
When these critical incidents occur our tools and coping
skills are often inadequate and are overwhelmed by the abrupt and sometimes
violent shift from what we “thought” our world was to what it “must become”. It is only natural that the skills that served
us so well in our “normal” would be inadequate to face this “new normal” we
never imagined.
As a social worker we
will often be called upon during these times to walk with someone as they
grieve, accept, and learn to find hope in new things. During this time someone will honor you with
his or her story. They will share their
vulnerability. As you honor this trust
and create a safe place for them to struggle with integrating the new, you will
see the beauty of human beings. An angle
of human beings that not everyone gets to witness, The moment when someone
takes what was a shattered vase and pieces it back together bit by bit until it
is a beautiful mosaic. No, it will never
be the vase it was. It will be something
so much stronger and more beautiful than anyone ever imagined.
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